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"I Miss You" is a Four Letter Word

True love is what you have for another person.  1 Corinthians 13:5 says, “[love] is not self-seeking.” 

When most people say, “I miss you,” I feel like they are actually saying, “I feel lonely, and I want you here so you can make me feel better.” That is NOT true love. That is self-seeking.

 If I were to tell you that I miss you, it could be conveying that I feel lonely, unloved, abandoned, bored, unfulfilled… and it’s your responsibility to make me feel better. You can even take it a step further and assume that I am blaming your absence for my negative feelings. This would be a guilt tactic and it is the opposite of love.

I plan on trying to avoid that phrase. Instead, I will say, “I look forward to seeing you.” It takes the negativity out of the communication.

If I have “true love” for you… I look forward to seeing you so that I can love ON YOU, serve YOU, make YOU feel better. That is the opposite of self-seeking. That is serving, much the way Jesus served the people he loved.

 God IS love. He loves us when we have given him nothing. He even loves us even when we blame him for evils, or even when mankind crucified his innocent son. He does not "miss us"… He is looking forward to seeing us, so that He can love us.

 David

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