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I'm not God.

I've heard for decades that as a man and a follower of Christ, I am to be a spiritual leader for my wife. Sounds good. Noble. Holy. I've been married now almost four years. For more than four years I've been quite frustrated in this role. Many attempts seem to cause more of a rift that a holy moment of growth.

I've been praying for some time that God would give me wisdom in this role. He is moving. He has brought my attention to some "agreements" I've made that are based on lies from our cunning enemy. You know him as Satan. He is real... and he intends to destroy us.

So, what is this "agreement"?? For years and years I've been living under the thought that "It is up to me to lead and move my wife in her spiritual growth." In more recent times its been even more severe... "God is the only way out of this difficult trial. If I don't see my wife vigorously seeking Him, then I must lead her to Him or we will both be stuck in this dark place." In essence, I'm trying to "be God" or more precisely the Holy Spirit. How ridiculous! It's not up to me to do that which I cannot even do for myself. It is God who first loved me. Is it me who leads me to the truth? No! It's the Holy Spirit.

God said, "David! Let me be God. You be a husband... and love her!"

So then, what is this spiritual leadership? It's not leading as a coach leads his team. It's doing the very thing that I hope and pray she does. My leadership is to look like this... I seek God, he leads me. God works in me to make me more like his son. Baring the fruit of the spirit. I share with Vanessa my journey. I share with her my struggles and what God says to me as I seek him. She sees God's glory and the work of his hand and is inspired to do the same.

It seems so obvious.

David.

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