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Emotional Empeti

Do other people think and feel? You wouldn't know it by looking at their faces. You wouldn't know it by talking with them.

You may have the belief that I think and feel more than most people... if you read this blog. It is so exposed. Or so it seems. Yet there are a host of others thoughts and pools of emotions that I do not bear on this blog. They are even deeper. More raw. Not held up and examined, "Do I really feel this way? Do I really believe this?" Instead, they are pure impulse... and question. This blog is an exposition of the consistent currents of emotion and thoughts that have been examined... pondered on... and many a question, brought to an answer.

There is more behind your experience of an emotion than most of us are aware of, at a personal level. Mr. X, your anger isn't because you are "simply angry." It's because you are scared. It's because when you were a child and your dad lost his job and you lost your home... your dad started drinking... and changed. Your family never was the same. Now, you are afraid similar tragedy could happen to your family... and that you'd be the cause. Or, Mrs Y, you don't really want to die... you are just tired. You've been working two jobs, raising your children, bills aren't getting paid, your boss threatened to fire you and you really don't trust that God can provide for you. You don't trust that your friend and family love you and will help in time of need. You are just exhausted and anxious, and you don't trust in the goodness of God.

It's this string of causes, emotional impeti, to which people don't pay enough attention. They are focused on the feeling of anger... or the feeling of utter hopelessness... and they indulge it. They feed it. Baby it. They worship it and become a slave to it.

Could all of these things be going on in the hearts and minds of the people around you? Similar things are going on in me... different issues... different emotions... different etiologies. But they are there. In this blog, my mask is only half way off. Many people keep their mask on their entire lives. In every arena of life. They have no comrade in whom they confide. They just suppress. Distract. Buy things. Do things. Drink things. Pop things. Inject things. These things help them keep their mask on... so others don't see... so they don't see.

What would the world be like, or what would relationships be like... if we all had people we could be real around? If we could let our masks come down? If we could talk it out, instead of distracting it away? I think people would be healthier. I think relationships would be more about relating, and less about using each other to make ourselves feel better.

Do you think and feel? What are you feeling?

David

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